I've come to the conclusion that I am not sensitive enough to be raising girls

It has taken me 16 years to realize this.

I am a very direct person and this is how I prefer people to be with me. I do not game-play, nor do I engage in passive-aggressive tug-of-wars. My honesty has at times caused me some trouble in my adult years and while I am learning to be "PC"....I sure do not come by this naturally, nor is it enjoyable since I feel like it is not real. (enough)

It is possible I have become this way as an adult as a extreme reaction to the adventures of my childhood, adolescence, and young adulthood.

I have daughters who seem, from my point of view, to need a larger than normal amount of "nicey-nicey" phrasing in any conversation that crosses into personal issues. This I am not good at. I am a facts gal and would rather get to the point, discuss, and move onto something else. (unless problem solving is needed or something further)

I need to work on this aspect of my personality and try to become more of a touchy-feely type of person. Being raised in a home where I don't remember gestures of love (verbal or physical.....whether or not I am correct....who knows since I have no memory of much of my childhood) and I think this has affected my admitted lack in being "nicey-nicey" in conversations and is something that I realize I must work on.

I don't know if I'll ever not have the impulse to roll my eyes when someone engages me in conversation that way. I'd rather be told like it is...be allowed to debate back (if needed) and then self-reflect when I am alone, implement anything that needs be, and move on.

This also may play into why I have said many times that I'd be happiest teaching at a private all-boys school. (rather than the co-ed private school I do teach at) I have come to appreciate the way most males handle conflict and this, according to my husband, is the way I tend to operate. I like things that way. However, I must bend...I realize that.

Hence, my comment about not being sensitive enough to be raising girls. (and two teen aged ones at that!)

Peace and God Bless